When I'm Mad At My Boyfriend And He Knows That He Did Somthing Wrong, He Always Finds A Way To Turn It Around On Me And Make Me Feel Bad Like I Did Somthing Wrong. Plus He Brings Up The Past, Why?
6 Answers - Sort by: Date | Rating
Firstly no one person is an angel within a couple. You both have to imagine a box - PAST ISSUES - are put in this box by both of you. So any arguements you now have - neither of you are allowed to throw any of the boxed issues at each other anymore. He has to let them go and move on. If he continues to do so, he's crossed a boundary and there has to be consequences. If there is mutal respect between you both, he wont cross the line anymore.
As for when you're mad at him - and he was in the wrong, then he should be man enough to apologise for upsetting you anyway. Give you a big kiss and cuddle and make sure it don't happen again.
As for when you're mad at him - and he was in the wrong, then he should be man enough to apologise for upsetting you anyway. Give you a big kiss and cuddle and make sure it don't happen again.
2
0
It is a human failing to keep on harping about the past, and bringing up unpleasant situations that may have happened in the past, to make things unpleasant in an already volatile situation.
Do not worry, it is a common phenomenon. Did you hurt your boyfriend badly at any point, and is that why he is so defensive? He may in fact be trying to defend himself from getting hurt again; maybe the last time was rather too much for him, and he had to make a compromise.
If you feel that this was what happened, then you must try to make amends. Do not blame him for whatever mistake he may have committed in the past. Be patient, and try to see things from his perspective; this is a very good method of solving problems. Once you learn to do this, your relationship will progress more smoothly.
Do not worry, it is a common phenomenon. Did you hurt your boyfriend badly at any point, and is that why he is so defensive? He may in fact be trying to defend himself from getting hurt again; maybe the last time was rather too much for him, and he had to make a compromise.
If you feel that this was what happened, then you must try to make amends. Do not blame him for whatever mistake he may have committed in the past. Be patient, and try to see things from his perspective; this is a very good method of solving problems. Once you learn to do this, your relationship will progress more smoothly.
2
0
It's a very common way for men not to accept responsibility for their actions. I would watch out for this behaviour because it is very common among emotionally abusive people. It is their way of controlling their partner, through guilt, intimidation, whatever it takes. Be careful and do not allow your self to believe that "there is something wrong with me". Relationships are 60%/40% It takes two to make it and two to break it. Acceptance of this type of behaviour validates it.
2
0
i think you must have hurt his ego by saying such things like he made a mistake . No man likes to admit he has made a misttake. he may do so in order that he may feel he has an upper hand
1
0
Your boyfriend is doing this to try and make you take the blame for his wrong actions. This is wrong and very unfair. He doesn't care for you or respect you to do this.
No relationship can work under these conditions especially if he's throwing up unhappy things from the past.
You need to ask yourself why your still with him?
It doesn't sound as if you have any happiness or fun together.
Unless you both agree that all this has to stop- then there's no future in this relationship which is based on bad feeling and unhappiness.
You need to make the move away from him and get out and enjoy life. It's too short to waste arguing and perhaps he feels that you're always getting at him - why don't you both say good and positive things to each other for a change and see the difference that might make. Instead of making each other feel inadequate you'd make each other feel great.
No relationship can work under these conditions especially if he's throwing up unhappy things from the past.
You need to ask yourself why your still with him?
It doesn't sound as if you have any happiness or fun together.
Unless you both agree that all this has to stop- then there's no future in this relationship which is based on bad feeling and unhappiness.
You need to make the move away from him and get out and enjoy life. It's too short to waste arguing and perhaps he feels that you're always getting at him - why don't you both say good and positive things to each other for a change and see the difference that might make. Instead of making each other feel inadequate you'd make each other feel great.
1
0
He obviously brings up past mistakes to try and justify his behaviour towards you now. The past does not technically exist anymore, and is only kept alive when people keep dredging it up.
Tell him he has to forget about past mistakes and if he can't, you will need to move on whether you love him or not, because he is obviously making you unhappy.
Tell him he has to forget about past mistakes and if he can't, you will need to move on whether you love him or not, because he is obviously making you unhappy.
0
0
- How Many Types Of Personalities?
- How Come I Still Love My Husband Even Though He Hit Me?
- I Like This Boy But He Has A Girlfriend My Friends Told Him That I Liked Him Since We Both No Each Other When They Told Him He Smiled When He Found Out?
- My Boyfriend Was Born On 04-28-80and I Was Born 09-12-90 Are We Compatible?
- I Like This Boy But He Has A Girlfriend Ever Since My Friends Told Him That I Did It Went Around The School Now They Broke Up What Should I Do I Didnt Want Them To Break Up?
- Where Was 10 Things I Hate About You Filmed?
- What Is The Time In Uk?
- Will Someone Someday Love A Non Virgin Girl?
- Is It Normal For Boy 7 To Experiment Sexually With Other Boy7?
- Is My Girlfriend True To Me?
- What Is Trampling For Girls A Fetish, Fun, Sexual , Weird Or Else?
- In My Opinion My Friend Is 'Lonely' Her Friends(apart From Me) Are Backstabbers And Her Ex Is Retarded(as In An Idiot) Anyways The Question Is, Should She Get A New BF? Why Do Ya Thinks So?
- Who Is Your Best Mate From Jls?
- What Should I Talk About With My Friends When I See Them In The Morning?
- Is It Okay For A Teen Girl To Masturbates With A Object And Like It?
- How To Say Cute In Tagalog?
- What Do You Think If You Find Your Wife Is A Gay?
- If A Boy Is Dating With A Girl And He Love Her So Much But In The Same Time I Don't Know What His Intension With Me,how Can I Know His Intension With Me?
- If A Boy Who Loves You But After 3 Yrs Of Love Is Now Using Slang Words When V Had 1 Fight......what Should I Do?
- How Does A Woman Know When She Is Going To Come?
- How To Dump A Friend Who Cheats?
- Precautions Fishermen Should Take When Out At Sea?
- What Is Pheromones?
- How Do I Say I Will Always Love You?
- How To Be Heartless?

New Comment - Comments are editable for 5 min.