23 years together 4 kids lost his mother I feel we don't connect any more
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Love is a two way street. You have to try just as hard as he must and you also have to trust-in-him as he trust in you! Just because he is a truck driver does not mean he is cheating as truck drivers are on schedules which greatly limit there free time. This and the fact that since he is driving he most likely doesn't have a whole lot of free time to pursue other relationships. On the other hand you being at home and stationary would have much more free time and availability for an affair; you need to let go of your insecurities and put your faith to work for you.
answered 11 months ago
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The best thing you should do is follow your brain not your heart,,, cause at the end love it blind.....
Go for that who loves you not who you love
answered 11 months ago
Why don't you believe him? Is it something he did, besides being absent? Is it you not loving him? If you love him and he loves you, then I would think that you probably have to decide whether to be happy or not. You can choose this you know? You can look for what is good and right, instead of what is wrong. Life isn't ever going to offer perfection and having a spouse who is gone all the time is a challenge, but it's also a challenge for him. Have you guys ever thought about concentrating on how to reconnect and show love under your present circumstances regardless of the challenges? It's like looking at the same situation, but the flip side of it. Some people would love to have the husband out of the way and enjoy what you can with your kids, family, and friends, making the most of it when he does come home. Is he unhappy when he comes home? Ask him why? Maybe he's needing to tell you something like, "could we just be happy when I'm here?" Give it a chance. You can always be unhappy, you can always divorce, but you may not get another chance at happiness with the man you chose to have 4 kids with. And let me tell you, my husband cheated on me too. I divorced him and 15 years went by before we had the chance to say "I do" again. The 15 years were much worse than the 21 we had together with all it's problems. If no one has addictions problems and no was is abusive, then you still have a chance.
I also realized that with having kids, we had started a family that had a family, that had a family. We had suddenly become responsible for the solidity and good foundation for those generations as well. Big responsibility, far bigger than just the two of us. Think about it. Think about all these disconnected people who don't have a family to go home to for Christmas or Thanksgiving. Just a few more unhappy people in the world without a solid foundation. No one said it would be easy or fair. Good luck to you. Prayer, a lot.
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