Is It Appropriate For The Husband To Be Friend With His Ex-wife That Cannot Accept His New Wife?

It is totally unacceptable. Your husband should not be in any kind of friendship with his ex-wife. There must be a strong reason when he had left her wife. Now he must believe you and take good care of you.

On the other hand you should care those kids no matter how much they dislike you or they don't accept you. Change their hate feelings into love. You can do that by always saying true and be affectionate to all.

It hurt my feelings when my husband visit his son but i cannot go.because it's still his ex-wife house and I'm not welcome in the house.I'm confused if i should stop my husband from going to see his son because I cannot go.Please answer.

No.  Get over the first one, get it on with the next one.

That is really unacceptable. No offence but your husband should be more considerate of you. The kids as you said were full grown and I believe that they should be able to see past the lies if you are considerate and caring and overall are always able to back up what you say to them.

No it is not acceptable. To be on friendly terms is to be expected when there are children involved. If the kids are grown, why don't they come to their fathers house to visit? Its hard to make kids do things they don't want to. I wouldn't talk bad about their mother in front of them, even if she is bad-mouthing you. They will realize on their own that you aren't a bad person. As for your husband, he needs a wake up call. Would he be ok with you ex husband talking about him? And would it be alright if he wasn't allowed at the ex's house?

I think it is unacceptable because if he has to let her know that if she doesn't accept you he can't talk to her at all. U r his wife now n he has 2 put u first.

Thats unfortunate, my ex husband had a "new" wife that was horrible to me, but i refused to bow to her level and i remained civil to her and to him(though he isnt my fav person) the best way to win the kids over is to NEVER talk about their mom in a mean way whether you think they can hear you or not! And maybe just ask your husband if there is a specific reason she hates you, go from there. The kids are whats important though, and believe me they will eventually love you as their own.

Yes this is not acceptable.. Because it can hamper your current marriage.. If your ex wife doesnt accept your wife.. And if you love her enough you would want whats best for her.. Even if it means walking away from your ex wife..

I don't think that is at all acceptable. She doesn't have to accept you. And most exes don't. But that's normal. You are the new woman in her kids dad life. She doesn't want her kids to like you because she's afraid of being replaced. Although that can never happen. Just keep your head up. You need to give your husband an ultimatum. If he doesn't accept it, then he doesn't care about you. His kids are grown. What reason does have to go around her anyways? Alot of women don't accept it when their ex- husbands find someone new. But I think your husband needs to talk to her. And let her know that you are the woman in his life now. They didn't work out. So be it Let it go. If she wants her kids to see their father, there should be no reason why you can't come too. Unless something else is going on. Your husband should have common sense. If you're not welcome, he shouldn't be welcome either.