Should I Get Mad That My Boyfriend Looks At Porn?.

If  he  needs to look  at  porn
He  is  disrespecting  you
If   I had  a  gf or  wife
I  wouldn't   be   doing  that
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I dont know about any other girl but i hate it! It was alright when it didnt affect me but now he is starting to say things like "you dont dress sexy for me" and "you wonder why i dont want you, you wear hello kitty to bed". Im so sick of it. It would be fine if he didnt compare me to the girls he jerks off to but he does. It makes me feel horrible. Its gotten to the point that i dont want to have sex with him at all because he makes me feel ugly. I hate him for that sometimes. He was never like that before. We are supposed to be moving in together soon and Im sure that things will just be worse when he looks at the same old me every single day. I hate that guys are so perverted and cant just appreciate what they have!

I guess I would call myself a bit a jealous person. When my boyfriend told me he had been watching porn, I was very upset. Of course, I didn't get into an argument with him, I just asked him why he did. He made it seem like it wasn't that big of a deal. Maybe us girls are just overreacting to something that is innate in men? It's true that they have more of a sex drive than women do because of their higher levels of testosterone, but it still makes me upset. And then I feel guilty for getting upset. I wonder why he would want to look at another woman sexually when he has me?

Yes.

I did with my boyfriend. Found hundreds of pictures and Dvds, burned films etc. I got mad and he said he'd stop. 3 times he said and I still find it. I dont think he will change but by this point I am pregnant and stuck.

I dont enjoy sex anymore.

Just be careful on commitment.

I said this before on here, be all means be very mad!!! When you are in a relationship, there should only be you two, not you two and the entire cast of a disease fest. People who can lower their standards to sleeping with people they don't even know, aren't great examples of knowing how to love your partner. I tell ya, if my husband was caught with that crap on, he would find himself in the other room for a very long time. I think I am attractive enough, he doesn't need anyone else to get him excited. Gross, porn is disgusting!!!!!

I get mad when my so-called b/f looks at porn....sometimes i think that he just a nasty type of dude....

You should stop him from doing that.. Tell him it's either your body or nothing.. Why does he have to look at other girls bodies?.. "looking around" is an equivalent of a wandering eyes and is the same as cheating

Porn for the most part hasn't bothered me too much in the past. However, my boyfriend watches somethings that end up turning me off. Once he was watching a girl strip tease and another video was girls dressed up as cheerleaders. What bothers me is these are things that I would do for him. I'm a very attractive girl who is in great shape. It made me feel less than that. I also am a very sexual person who is down to do anything with him. After seeing that he was watching those though it's something I never want to do with him now. I feel like he couldn't be intimate and open enough to want that from me that he doesn't deserve it now. He had to watch another girl do what I would've done. That hurts.

No, he is not cheating guys just have an over active drive. I think it's ok as long as they're just looking.

I believe that as long as he does not substitute the porn for you or spend his time&money on internet porn , he is entitled to enjoy his porn. It may not be your cup of tea, but if your only complaint is that you don't like it, is it worth fighting over. When we tell other adults what they should like or enjoy, weare trying to control or change that person. If you like everything else , don't lose the 90% you like for making a big issue over the 10% you don't. Good luck with this.

Absolutely not.  If he's not cheating on you physically, then looking at porn just means that he's thinking about sex--he's likely not actively soliciting a relationship with a porn star.  That being said, asking some local girl to give him a live show via web-cam is completely different than watching anonymous online porn.  It's a fantasy about the act versus a fantasy about the girl.  If he ever gets to the point where he's NOT looking at porn, then he'll either be humping your leg when you have better things to do, or else he will have killed his sex drive altogether, neither of which you want.  Let him dream about whatever he wants... As long as he comes to you to live it out.

Hey I'm a married women and have two children and my husband still watches porn there is nothing wrong with it . It does not mean he loves porn more then you. All guys or men do that its only natural from them too even some women i no very well watch porn with there husband . I hope this can help you .

No you should join him and both of you will have fun together

Well, clearly i'm contemplating the same thing, and that question has led me here. It's sort of sad really, turning to the internet to find an answer that i know i can only get from my boyfriend...but that's the thing; we've talked about this a few times and i'm still not happy with the situation. When we first started dating, i didn't really care that he watched porn, but now that i have real feelings for him it breaks my heart to know that when he's not with me, he's "with" women who meet his sexual ideal. I know that he has a higher sex drive than me and because we both have busy schedules we don't have as much intimate time as either of us would like, but i don't see how that equals watching other women (of whom he has favorites) have sex.

At this point, i just try to forget that he watches porn, but every once in a while something reminds me and i go through this all over again.

I have the same exact feelings as you. And the same story as well. I hate it, we've been through it hundreds of times, the most recent time it really hurt me that he lied about it. He says he doesn't look at it, but I really do have this gut feeling he does. I just don't feel good enough for him. It makes me think I have to look like these girls. He asked me for pictures and I sent some to him, but he never used them. He even told me he's only used them once or twice. So its one thing to over react about it, but when you have different situations to where its obvious he thinks maybe you're not as attractive as them, it should be over. It's hard to say if you really care about him, because I can't seem to end it either. But if it really hurts your feelings like it hurts mine, then you need to find another man. :]

Chill out! Every guy in the universe looks at porn...thats a guy. Doesnt mean hes going to cheat on you. Go watch it with him ;) it will make him even more excited.
If he watches it too often and you dont like it ..ask him whats up  and tell him with a sarcastic attitude '' thats cool if u wanna watch porn ill leave you to it '' if hes cares he will turn it off and if he doesnt well then you know that the porn is more important

Nope.

Great answers. This is helping me get over that I saw porn on my boyfriend computer as I was passing the screen last night and he was asleep. I was in bed waiting for him and there he was watching porn. I don't understand men.

Yes! Thats gross!

I'm having serious problems in my relationship because of this and I'm really not sure what to do...I never cared at all about porn before -- I actually loved watching it myself...now I am feeling he complete opposite.....when I find that he's been doing it, my heart starts racing and pounding really hard, I get instantly sick to my stomach and in some cases actually throw up. Even more recently my throat starts to close up and its hard to breath and painful.

So as far as my efforts go to solve the problem it seems to be only getting worse, and what gets me the most is that I actually get physical reactions from this.....any ideas what that could be? It's driving me really crazy :(

No i would say no because at least hes not out sleeping with other women hes only looking at porn

He's just not that into you.  Know guys who do it, and they have lost the love for their wives.  So if I were you, I would file for divorce.  Plain and simple.  Stopping gossiping like little girls and grow some balls.  Move on, no need to be hiding stuff from each other, that's not a healthy relationship at all, don't ya think?  I'm a guy, I know.

Well it must really suck for you
and i understand everyone has the rite to be upset about their bf looking at porn.
Unless he gets obsessed with it and it what he want to do instead of being with you

You should be upset.  Porn is addicting and tears families apart.  Ask any porn addict.  It is mind consuming. It can also escalate to sex crimes.  Nearly all convicts of sex crimes have started out as men who were into porn.  It is also very disrespectful to you.  I would get out of the relationship.  Be with someone who cares for you and your feelings.  Oh.  By the way....don't believe what others are telling you.  Not ALL men look at porn.

Don't get mad, just get rid of him. I know this is a little late for reply, anyway, he is not good for you. I just recently split with my perverted male. This man which I believed in was cheating on me from the time I met him with porn and hoar's, the lies got greater and greater. So many disgusting things started to appear on day to day basics. This man has a girl child the age of 11 years. He would do things like watch porn and place a vibrate up his back passage while the child was in the next room where she could walk out at anytime and see him in full view. Then I would catch him perving on his child in the shower and she would scream and ask him what he was doing. This happen on many occasions'. I think if they need to surf for porn, then they have a problem with what is real in life. Many times I have come back from party or outing where my friends would be afraid to tell me on things that he would do, which made them feel uncontable and disturbed. I would say to you move forward as these guys will lie there way out of it to not make them look bad, sick or except responsibilities for any of there actions. Remember they can flirt with sex while there young in any way or form, but when they become older them they become dirty old men. Be clear with what the real truth is, it's not you that is sick demented problem, it is there issue with own sick intention, and they could never have time for you. They do not like them self's and there the one that is insecure, and need to be kept a close watch on them from family and friends.  There is way too much of this happening in the world, and women today should have respect for them self's, if we allow it, it will continue to carry on through our life time.  Take care for you are wonderful. Rember Love Is All There Is...

I have mixed feelings on this subject as well. When a guy looks at porn he feels like he's in a fantasy world, but the only thing that makes absolutely no sense at all is why can't he just think of his girlfriend?i think that yes it is normal to look at porn when your a guy, but i think it's also immature in a way because after they have seen it a couple of times why do they need to constantly  explore? I mean it's not like they are a little 12 year old boy seeing it for the 1st time. They already know what to expect.... If i were you i would talk to your boyfriend about this, because this could be an even bigger problem than you may know, some guys actually get completely addicted and they can't stop....

Hey girl don't knock it till you try it!! It may spice up your relationship just try it once if you dont like it then tell him. If he likes to watch it then thats ok as long as its not all the time, hey its better than him going out to bars and hitting on other women!!

As I said earlier, the two option rule is ridiculous, and the porn "is normal" statement is also a sociological fallacy. The porn/internet phenomenon has only been an accessible reality for a short amount of time. In the Kinsey reports done in the mid 1900s men who were seen as looking at porn a lot were actually only viewing it once a week because it wasn't as accessible. Now it is seen as "normal" for them to view it every single day. That is a huge leap in statistics in a short amount of time. So the argument that it is normal doesn't fit the bill. If it was natural or normal then it would have been going on for a long time.This really has very little to do with you or your boyfriend particularly. It's a bit of a societal disease. The more than women and men accept it as "normal", the more pressure we feel to find excuses to accept it. It's a vicious cycle that leads to the destruction of partnerships, and a difficulty with intimacy in relationships.If you are worth it, then leave him. If it bothers you then say goodbye. It's really all you can do. Refuse to accept the improbable facts that people try to lay out in front of you, and just walk away. If you choose to stay then just admit to yourself that you are giving in to societal pressures to deal with what he looks at. But realize that doing that means swallowing your pride, your feelings, and your right as a woman to be special for the man in your life.

I have a similar situation. I have been dating my bf for nearly 4 years. I caught him texting about youporn.com and how amazing it is.  I confronted him about the situation (I was very emotional: Bawling my eyes out),  He looked right at me and claimed that he does not look at porn and that it was only a joke with his buddy (who I know for a fact is obsessed with porn), but the text did not nearly sound close 2 being a "joke." I know that he would never be honest about it.. He has developed a lying problem...

Im not sure how to feel.. At first I tried not 2 let it affect me, but I couldnt stand it. What is wrong with me?  Why am I not good enough for him? I have a nice body, and a cute complexion... Why does he have to look and dirty, loose sluts who just degrade themselves... I wish I could cope with it.... And I wish that he would just be honest about it, so that we could work from there.  How are we suppose 2 work on something that can never be recognized.

I can tell when he i lying.... So I believe he is... I wish that some guys could feel how their partners may feel about it. So I don't know what to tell you... I'd suggest leaving him, but then I would just be a hypocrite... Because I love him, and no matter how much it hurts, I can't bring myself to leave him...

Don't be mad, try to explain to him that you hope he will try something new...  Ask him not to watch porn for a week, no sex, no masturbation etc for a week... And then at the end of the week you will do something for him, fulfill a fantasy he has... At the end of the week, talk to each other about how you want to do it, what your fantasies are... You could be very surprised and pleased with the results... Good luck.

When I first started dating my boyfriend, he admitted to me that he frequently looks at porn. I wasn't exactly mad, more disappointed. I know its part of human nature to look at someone that is attractive, but I feel like that if I am able to commit sexually to one person, he should be able to as well. So I had a long conversation with a male friend about it, and we came to a conclusion that I think is reasonable. He said that when a guy is single, he is obviously going to look at porn. BUT if his sexual urges are satisfied, and he is in a relationship, looking at porn is an encroachment on the intimacy in a relationship. I agree. If some girl with fake DD's is going to pose naked on the Internet, what does that leave for other women? I'm not trying to argue that its alright for a girl to let herself go, etc. I'm only saying that the things that make ordinary, not fake, women sexy are no longer as important. Thats just my opinion. I suggest you talk to him and ask him if its okay if you look at pics of naked guys. I'm sure he won't really enjoy that suggestion.

If you are old anuf
show him wat u look like or act sexy and he will probable stop looking at porn

YES he might think ur not good enough or he likes it u should tell him how u feel its disrespect!!!!

Yes!!! Cause if he has you, he should not be looking at porn!! You are the real thing, why in the h--l should he be looking at porn? Tell him it's time to go,and don't come back!!!!

Well from personal experience i get a litte upset that my boyfriend looks at porn but, i got over it ..but u do have to realize that getting mad is a little extreme, its not like he's going to meet up with these people or that he even really knows them and i think it's a natural thing for guys to look at some form of porn so just let it be just ask him to please not watch it while you are around because it upsets u....he should understand if he cares about you feelings...

No because it natural for them to do that

Well,   now what you should do is look at man porn and see how he reacts, if that doesnt work, just confront him and tell him u dont like it

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NO! I know it is hard to not let it bother you, but men all over the world enjoy looking at the female anatomy and they do have fantasies as women do too. He probably just has a higher sex drive than you do at this time.

Hell no. Why would anyone get mad at a person for looking at porn? Maybe, you should give him a live show, never know, he might just enjoy it enough that he doesn't need the porn