How Can I Become Less Jealous Of My Boyfriend Talking To Other Girls?

Jealousy is the WORST trait a person can have! It just broke up my boyfriend and I b/c he was so jealous and thought everyone wanted to sleep with me! First of all, jealousy is a sign of insecurity in a relationship. I would ask myself WHY you feel he is doing anything wrong. If you have confidence in yourself then you won't worry about him being with anyone else. Also, if he cheats on you then he really did not care to begin with so move on. People simply do not stray if they are happy!

Just remember he's yours..
Im going sorta' the same thing,
but im not jealous at all,
im not insecure or any of that,
I love myself and who im,
its just I love him to, just when
he isn't talking about how hot a girl is.. Like that only makes me pissed..
Like cu'mon man, be considerate, im your girlfriend! Ugh, just annoying,
but I know hes only playing around most of the time, just he has GUY FRIENDS for that, and I have girl friends to talk about boys to, so I never do with him....
Anyways, sorry..
Just remember to be secure, there's obviously something in you that keeps him from running off to these girls.

Well, you can also talk to other boys if that's cool with you and your guy. These things don't matter much when you are in a strong relationship.

possessiveness is the peak of love...and your being jealous is not wrong...so u r  not wrong tell your guy to be just yours if he loves you.

Your jealous..So what. It means you love him and care about him. I wouldn't worry too much. If you no he wont cheat on you and you no he loves you then just get on with it. Most boys actually don't go for the 'fantasy' girl. They never turn out to be as perfect as their cover. Boys look for a personality. A person to love and hold. Have more confidence, it will show on the outside. The more confident you appear the more your boyfriend will appreciate you for loving yourself for who you are. It will also make him realise the many reasons why he chose you. Dont worry about other girls. And always remind yourself, your bf's with you not them. If he ditches you for them then he isn't worth it.

Just b/c he talks 2 other girls doesn't mean he doesn't luv u girl just as long as u know at the end of the day he's coming home to what he know he belongs to that's how i feel and like FAISY and K Babe said that also means u luv him and u can still talk 2 other boys and not be jealous but i'm not saying 2 let ur trust gate down always b careful who u slip ur trust to ! And if ur jealous dat means date u do luv him and u care and have feelings 4 him.

You're going to have to learn to trust him.  If not, it will destroy your relationship, not to mention, drive you crazy in the process.

Just remember that you have one thing those other girls will never have, and that's him. Always think to yourself that of all those girls he could like, he wanted to be with you, and that's something no one can take away.

Its ok you felling jealous i mean who wouldnt? I mean he's yours remember. Plus if he's flirting then thats wrong. But if he's not then its ok. Looking at your BF talking to girls may make you misunderstand. He might be asking the girls what home work they had on monday. Or what they had in there sandwiches... =D. Home work still he belongs to you.

No trust ? No love i guess ?

I am going through the same at the moment, My boyfriend sat in this friends house until 1 in the morning and said that he got caught up talking to her dad.  Then last night he told me that she had asked him to go out for a chinese with her and her son.  Now yes I was jealous and why not.  Why is another woman asking my man that has a girlfriend out for a cosy meal with her and her son.  I have tried telling myself that I am his girlfriend and not her and he always spends alot of valuable time with me so why should I worry, but I still have this nagging thought in the back of my mind as to why she is doing this.  It is horrible being jealous and it is not a nice feeling at all but if you love your man then you have to try and trust him

I used to be in the same problem here,there were 3 girls who would always flirt with my bf,I felt insecure the firs day this happened but the same day I asked him if he liked them but he said no.now today we are a happy couple.just try to chill if this happens take a small break to relieve this problem

You have to learn to trust your man...and you should tell him how this whole thing makes you feel. No need to feel insecure your loves you!

Hey i know exactly how u feel look it doesnt matter we r so much better then man and you know what go for your life do whatever u want to do and trust me u and him will swoop places he will be the 1 by your side shaking and scared to loose you the more you show tht u scared of something to man the more they take advantage of it!!!


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This is my first relationship so far.. Been dating my boyfriend for 4 months now..and weve been all about eachother the entire time.. I love him so much and know he loves me.. He shows me that every single day..i cant say im IN LOVE with him..but do love him for the person he is and the way he is with me.. Recently hes moved down in the city where we both attend school and take the same program..our school hours are intense and we spend classes sitting beside eachother.. He no longer has a car and i live pretty far.. Inorder for us to see eachother outside of school its up to ME..that puts alot of stress on me and pressure..while im at home with family and friends..hes out with his 4 roomates who are all single..they meet girls..party with girls.have girls come over..go over to girls places..I NEVER SAW MYSELF AS THE JEALOUS type..but feel like lately i have been.. I dont know its just very repetetive the fact that he spends more of his free time..out of school time..with random chicks and not with me..hes done nothing for me to think hed cheat or w.e..but i cant stop causing fights over this..i would never ask him not to go out or wat not..and wouldnt expect him to listen..but I DO NOT KNOW WHAT TO DO..im going to ruin my relationship..help?!

Hey, i have the same problem with me and my bf right now...i love him to death, and i trust him with everything BUT girls...maybe its because i am insecure about myself but if you think that you are being reasonable with getting jealous then i think its ok...because it shows that you care enough to bring it to their attention so they guy wont do it again. If i were you, i would try to brush it off my shoulders and just tell him that you have a problem with whatever you have a problem with it. Dont get mad or pissed off or be dramatic about it..get a kind of "whatever" attitude about the situation..things will go alot smoother, trust me:) my bf got a phone call from his ex gf, and i started thinking bad things about him, assuming that he has been up to no good..stuff that can really cause a dent in a relationship...but he calmed me down when he saw that i was looking like i was thinking too much about it. He told me he didn want ne other girl but me and that he loved me more than ever and that the girl just really likes him. So if our guy talks to other girls..i would be cautious of it and question him occasionally about how close they are to him..and if girls talk to him , then just compliment yourself on finding a good catch of a bf:) Also, if your bf loves you or cares about you to any degree..he will listen and hear you out about the problems you have with him..and he WILL try to fix them...if he doesnt care what happens..then hes not worth your time or worry.

What a bf! Srry 2 say this...but (i know he wouldnt) but if my bf ever did that..omg!!!i'd try 2 make me more 'desirable' 2 my bf (if i had this problem) and make him want u so much he doesnt care whos around but u..my bf could have 10 million girls around him but he'd only look and talk 2 me..sounds like u need more understanding in ur relationship..

I understand the jealousy. My boyfriend who I do trust keeps talking to this one girl online from another country sometimes, even though he says she is annoying and stupid, he continues to talk to her. I've made it clear I don't like this girl either. She's quite flirty with him and bitchy, but he just tells me to stop being stupid. I am being a bit stupid, but I know if the situation was the other way around, he would be so pissed if I was talking to a guy who was flirty and was an asshole.

The one thing i dont get is that a boyfriend can talk to other girls but if you try to talk to other guys he flips out and will think your cheating..my boyfriend and i have been together for 2 years and since about 6 months on he's always talking to other girls going into AOL chatrooms..talking dirty to them in text messages...at this point i dont know what to do anymore..i love him to death...but i just dont know.

Look a man will be a man they will flirt.  As long as he doesn't take it past that level then I would not worry about it

I was going through the same thing you was going through but i had to realize that i loved him and how can i tell him that if i don't trust him. If yall love each other you shouldn't have anything to worry about.

I'm going through this now....jealousy is a very bad thing as part of a relationship...it hurts you a lot to see your bf chatting and flirting with other girls...he just doesn't realise that your getting hurt and upset by seeing him doing this.....well i'm over with my bf but i still love him...he's got a few girls after him who he flirts with a lot....which makes me upset. I try not to show this as i want him to feel that i have moved on....but i haven't, that is why i try to do the same chat more to my guy mates...even the other day i did this i flirted with my guy mate...he started saying oh connection eye....which means there was a sign of jealously there, but he just tried not to show it....

I know exactly how you feel. Just the other night we were over at a friend's party, and for the majority of the night I wasn't jealous at all. There was even one point where we were sitting at a table playing cards and there were no more chairs, so this random chick sat on his lap. At first I was pissed until I saw her boyfriend standing behind her and my boyfriend's slightly annoyed face. He said he'd tell her to get off if I wanted him to, so that made me feel a lot better. Later that night, however, I couldn't find him and looked around only to see him watching (very intently, I might add) some girls dancing promiscuosly. He saw that I was pissed and took me outside to apologise, calling them