I Have A13yr.son And He Treates His Dad And I Like Crape He Treats His Dad Worse. What Can I Do?

It is unfortunate that you and his father did not correct his behavior while he was younger.  He can still be turned around but you need to be firm.  He should be told that his behavior is unacceptable to you both and that he needs to show respect for anyone who is older than him.  Whenever he starts his disrespectful behavior, quietly ask him to speak respectfully or to leave the room and come back when he can speak in a respectful manner.  

If you are giving him an allowance, or allowing him any special privileges then it would be right to take these away from him due to his behavior.  And most importantly, do not threaten to do something and not carry through.

I believe he is looking for some guidelines to follow and instead is being allowed free rein over the house and therefore is given no guidelines.  Teenagers need verbal limits and limits on their actions, i.e. Drinking, smoking, swearing.  Set these guidelines and stick to them.  Do not tolerate these type of actions in your home or around you.

Yes, you do know how to handle a 13 year old.  This is your son.  You need to not only provide him a roof over his head and food to eat but you need to provide him with the fundamentals of being a good citizen.  Respect and empathy for others.  Truth, keeping your word, choosing what is right, honor of our country, honor your mother and your father.    This is your responsibility as a parent.

Do not let a 13 year old overwhelm you - that would make you and your spouse mentally younger than your son.  He is only pushing to see how far you will let him go.  You wouldn't let your spouse treat you like your son does would you?  Don't let your son believe that he is stronger or smarter than you two are because you know it's not true.

You can only teach him to respect his dad. The core years of this child have been passed. The first 2 to 3 years are very important in the development of a person. Now he has developed his behaviour. Education is the only thing which will guide him to good and bad.

Oh, those youngest teenager.  Sad when they begin to disrespect their parents. They probably disrespect teachers and other people of authority.  All too often parents have not taught respect for any elder earlier in life, so they get what they taught.  13 is not too late.  Enlist grandparents, uncles, teachers, church leaders and teachers in modeling and teaching respect.  See "Rebel Without A Cause" to learn how to do it..James Dean and the other teens in the movie want to respect their parents but can't until the parent earns it.