How Can I Change My Self Image?

We develop a self image over time, originally from our parents and from their reaction to our behaviour, but also from the way that they treat us and the values that they instil in us.  If your parents tell you, you're just like your father, you are likely to accept that his behaviours are your behaviours, unconscious sharing of values is not unknown.

One way to change your self image is to know that you can do and behave in any way that you want.  A great technique is to think of the person who you admire most in the world (please not your mother) and say okay, what would SO and SO do in this situation?  That way you are looking at a role model for your example.  Soon you are behaving in a new way and you self image changes to match the new you.  Soon you can just ask yourself, what would the new you do?