My Wife Argues That A Girl Should Be Able To Dress As She Likes Without Fear Of Inciting Rape, Yet She Refers To Girls As Being Dressed Like Whore. Is This Hypocrisy?.

Sorry, but if a woman was found in the middle of nowhere wearing nothing, she should be able to trust him NOT to hurt her unless she verbally invited it. The same thing with the clothing.
It does not lessen the "severity" of rape, that act cannot be justified. No matter how you look at. It violates a person's rights for one thing, it makes the woman feel like there is no safety in the world. And the rapist is not a man if he can hurt someone in such a way.
The gay scene is totally different. A straight man doing that on purpose is strictly looking to go out and hurt someone on purpose. (gay bashing)
There is no term "promiscuous girl gives permission to rapist."

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Rape is an act of rage, anger and power. The reference to "whore" does not imply or cannot be compared to incidence of rape; the term "whore" implies the assumption of personal promiscuity-- a moral judgment of one's CHOICE of sexual behavior/pattern--which has nothing to do with rape. I disagree that choice of clothing should be used make that kind of moral judgment, but your wif'es two points of view on these different topics doesn't mean she's hyprocritical; they are two completely different things.

Even though the crime of rape is perpetrated as violence of a sexual nature, it isn't predictaed by the type of clothing the victim wears, and it is NOT motivated by or committed to fulfill sexual drive. Most women who are raped are powerless, and perpetrators of the crime are angry and enraged, with elevated levels of testosterone and adrenaline which facilitate the ability to perpetrate their rage in a sexual manner upon their victims to control them and humiliate through violent overpowering. In the mind of someone who rapes, the power issue is the primary motivator and the need to control and express that by overpowering and instilling fear in someone in a violent act of sexuality (violation of the most protected being of a person) is the ultimate violence toward and power over another human being--even more violent than murder, as that ends the suffering of the victim. Read my lips - clothing is not the predicator-- the overpowering and physical/emotional harm/fear of another live, breathing human being is the ultimate motivator for rapists, rageardless of what a female wears.

While clothing types (or hair color or eye color) might set off buried rage in the psychopath and have other meanings for his psyhcopathology, provocative or even absence of clothing does not predicate rape. Many men who are witness to provocative clothing and are quite provoked to sexual excitement by it do not rape women and are not enticed to rape women. A rapist is as likely to rape a fully clothed woman as one dressed in scanty or "provocative" clothing. Prostitutes are often victims of rape because of their powerlessness and vulnerability, and because their profession entices psychopathic and sociopathic personalities.

And frankly, it makes me ill to even people allude to blaming the rape victim's appearance for the behavior of a psychopath and for such a violent, rage-based, unthinkably inhuman crime. It speaks of people's ignorance and a very REAL need to become educated about this crime, and about our unwillinness to hold accountable the rapist/psychopath/sociopath in committing it. It's the equivalent of blaming a victim of pedophilia because they are, they looked like, and dressed like a child.

"Whore" is a moral judgment about promiscuity. If your wife wants to assume people who dress provocatively are promiscuous, I guess she will have to wrestle with that generalization. I happen to vehemently disagree, having had many well-dressed clients that were far more promiscuous than their more provocatively dressed counterparts-- but that's your wife's issue, and it has absolutely nothing to do with and cannot be compared to the crime of rape and incidence/clothing profile of victims.

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I'd say this was hypocracy indeed.
Girls should be able to dress however they want without being labelled in a derogatory way.
We tend to label people too easily without knowing anything about them.
As a woman I feel very sad when I hear other women using terms like whore to describe their women.
Young women do tend to wear short skirts, a lot of make ups and high heels but that's because they're just young and enjoying life.
Because they don't fit another persons idea of what they should look like doesn't mean that they should be called derogatory names.

Perhaps your wife was brought up with certain ideas as to what constitutes respectable dress and what doesn't and she can't quite free herself of these ideas.
She obviously has a certain empathy and understanding for the way young girls dress because she says that they should be able to wear what hey want without fear of rape. On the other hand it seems as though she is making conditions in the context of her statement and saying that some girls are different.
Whether it is construed that a girls looks like a 'whore' or not she should be able to look however she wants without fear of rape. There's no look out there that justifies rape.
I believe that all women have a right to be free from being stereotyped and that no man has a right to think that any girl 'asks for rape' because she dresses in a certain way.
I would give all women regardless of how they dress sympathy and understanding if they were violated against their wishes.
I completely agree with the statement
There is no term"promiscuous girl gives permission to rapist'.

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Yes, that could be construed as hypocrisy. It depends on the context. A girl should be able to dress, but she should take into consideration, that if she dresses promiscuously, then some people do indeed take it the wrong way. But if someone dressed like that approached her husband, then she would assume the girl to be a "whore". There is a fine line there, and it depends on the situation. Hope this helps.

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Do you dress like you want to then she can to .and nobody has a right to say anything out of the way to her except you .....she is your wife.just use respect when you talk to her about how she dresses.

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