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Is It Possible To Keep A Relationship Secret?

I really like this girl at my school, but my parents won't let me date. I'm 16. Would it be possible to keep ask her out, but keep it secret from my parents? Thanks. PS I don't have my drivers license yet.

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    You can try to keep your relationship a secert but, if some one see's you with that special person than maybe they might tell. Can take the bus but, you might be taking a big chance. I know i did when i kept a sercert of a guy my partents found out and wanted me to stop dating that guy. Might back fire on you.try to meet not near the house and not to go where your parents would go to the movies or to dinner good luck
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    Deeteddy 

    answered 1 year ago

    I don't live anywhere near this person, so it would be really hard to see each other except at school. Any suggestions?
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    Bushn

    Bushn

    commented 1 year ago

    Can you take a bus to her house or have both of up I meet near the mall and I understand is very hard right now and an trying to help you as much I can. Or maybe a cab to her house or train not sure where you live. Let me know what happens, good luck
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    Deeteddy

    Deeteddy

    commented 1 year ago

      Yes, it is possible to keep a relationship secret.  But secrets could also get found out. In your case, for example, if you keep thinking about this girl and secretly seeing her, you will have to use your time and brainpower planning your secret meeting.  That is time that otherwise would be put to studying. It is stressful to keep a secret.  

      Understand that your parents have legitimate reasons for not allowing  you to date yet. It does not mean they would not be able to understand you.  Surely, they would because they love you and care for you.  Why don't you talk to your parents about this girl and how you feel? I am sure it will not be easy for you or your parents. But it could be a starting point. Doing this will show them your sense of responsibility.  

      Good luck.
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      Ice-blue 

      answered 1 year ago

        Maybe you could sit down with your parents and talk to them again about you dating someone. Tell them you are interested in someone and you would like to date. And being a parent i know its hard but tell them that you can be trusted by bringing your date to your house to meet your parents, and maybe your parents will be okay with the idea that you and your girl will only hang out at the house supervised with your parents there. Then hopefully your parents will see that you two can be trusted and let you go out alone with each other.  BUT THAT MAY TAKE A LONG TIME TO GAIN THEIR TRUST! So i hope that you can talk to your parents about this and maybe they'll feel differently about you dating someone if they see that its in a supervised setting.
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        Nicegirl06 

        answered 1 year ago

        There are 3 REALLY BAD relationship ideas.
        1. Friends with benifits.
        2. Hook ups
        3. Secret relationships


        although it is your parents it would be better to wait.
        My friend was in the same situation and he tried it and his parents found out.
        He now is trying to gain their trust back and might have to wait till he is 18 to date.


        You could try it. But i wouldn't recommend it.

        Just tell her. I really like you but my parents are really weird about me dating. maybe if you met them first they would let me try it. Would you be up for that?

        If that is uncomfortable for you then tell her you really like her and you would like to date her but maybe things should go slow and tell your parents that they can trust you because you really like her. Then they will open up to the idea. Maybe very slowly but im pretty sure they will.
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        Komodomo 

        answered 1 year ago

        Well I am and I only have my permit, its hard but when you want to see her just say you want to go out with some friends and meet her places I'm doing that right now because my bfs parents hate me and my parents and my parents hate my bf and his parents its like romeo and juliet  lol but good luck I pray you and this girl of yours will work out well.
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        Luvanimals 

        answered 1 year ago

          I don't know how with all these people everywhere with camera phones. You could be anywhere and someone you know might catch you kissing, going into a motel, having drinks in a bar, the list goes on. Unless staying indoors all the time is ok with you, love should see the light of day. If you have to hide, you feel ashamed of what you are doing or you think it is wrong.
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          Cspook7 

          answered 9 months ago

          The only way i think you could truely do this safely is to first ask your potential girlfriend if she agrees to keep it secret and wont tell anyone. Especially with girls all we want to do is share everything with other people, and even if we share it with one girl only that can spread across the school in 2 minutes, so ud have to be careful. As far as parents go it should be pretty easy, but eventually if the relationship persists for like 6 or more months you should come clean and tell them how much she means to you and then they might understand..Good luck! :)
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          Td197 

          answered 1 year ago

          Totally.
          I have don't it before.
          My mom didn't like me going out with a black guy so i told her o broke up with him but i didn't.
          We went on and on.
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          Boys-lame 

          answered 1 year ago

          This is not a good idea under any circumstances.  I don't recommend that you do that.
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          Gettowork 

          answered 1 year ago

          Omg help me i really like this boy and he likes me but hes best friends with a guy that is completely in love with me any help
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          Guest

          Guest 

          answered 8 months ago

          That one is me
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          Bryea

          Bryea

          commented 8 months ago

            Well...yes and no....if they find out just be honest and say hey u were a kid too right

            -erica
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            Guest

            Guest 

            answered 6 months ago

            Yes it is possible even if you cant drive to keep a relationship secret. It would just be hard. You would have to meet up w/ this chick somewhere else and lie to your parents alot. It would be hard.....but when you really like someone.....you try as hard as you can to have them and don't let anything stand in your way. So either you can try and see what happens w/ the relationship and see where it goes.....or you don't have to try at all and just forget about it and live life single till you can date. Its your call. Your decision. Hope I helped? :)
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            Tekayla 

            answered 1 year ago

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