I found a weird pipe in my husbands things. It's not a typical bong. We just got married in April and he has always acted the same. Does this mean he has been on drugs the whole four years we have been together? Don't use drugs and am not sure of the signs. He smokes pot but I know this is different from pot.
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You know that he already smokes marijuana.
If you found a pipe used for some other purpose, that is a really bad thing. If he is hiding it from you, that is a much WORSE thing because it indicates a problem big enough for him to want to hide from you.
You can ask him about it, but drug users are the most convincing lies. If you want to know if a drug user is lying, look at his lips. If his lips are moving, he is liking.
Living with a drug user, or worse - being married to a drug addict is absolute hell. It is the worst hell imaginable - beyond your imagination. Drugs trump love everytime. It takes a long time for spouses to finally understand and believe it, but he will choose drugs over you again and again - at ALL cost.
At the very least, you need to get control over your money and assets. Those will evaporate with a drug user; little by little, and then a lot by a lot.
Here is probably the best simple test - look at the pupils of his eyes. Opiate users, like Oxycontin or heroin users will have tiny pinpoint pupils under even low light conditions. Meth and crack users will have dilated pupils. The meth and crack pupils are not quit as easy to notice as the opiate user, but with experience, it is a dead give-away.
Personally, based on my own experience and the experience of so many others, I would get out of the marriage now. DO NOT GET PREGNANT! REPEAT - DO NOT GET PREGNANT FROM THIS MAN!
Find someone who is clean. You cannot imagine the pain you are in for if you stay with a drug user (worse if he is an addict - it is a fine line and only a matter of time between user and addict). The more you love him, the more abuse you will take. He will take you down, sister. You won't be the first or the last. Rich, poor, smart, ignorant, strong, weak. We have all been there.
Being with a drug user (and eventually addict) will break you. It will destroy you even if you don't take the drugs with him. Get out while you can.
answered 5 months ago
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Mood swings, paranoid.Up late. Anything out of the norm that you are used to. He might not tell you the truth no matter how much he loves you. Drugs are a messed up thing. Do you see paraphnilia other then for pot?
Money problems getting deeper? Stay true to yourself! It looks like you already know the answer but are in denile. Thats normal procedure. The question now is how are you going to deal with this? Make a plan and act.
But to fall down deeper or with him you should be cautious of. The only way it will change is if he honestly wants to.
answered 5 months ago
I'm a recovering alcoholic & I thank GOD my husband didn't give up on me!!! Because that's when we need our mate's the most(when we need help) not for them to leave us at our weakest! I have to say-sound's like a crack problem,on the rise these day's-is he wirey? Snappy around you?, don't really know all the sign's of crack use-but think you should look it up on web,see if you relate to any of them. If he is-I have to admit- he has to hit his bottom to quit,I do believe if it get;s too hard for you to be w/ him & action's, a seperation might be due,let him know what he'd be losing over it. In meantime,try to help him (if he has one,sound's like he doe's,crack or ??)get help.call N.A.(narcotic's anonymous) get advise.Realize on his end,it's very hard to kick a drug habit,but,also take care of yourself in the process!!Best of luck to you & him!!!!God Bless!!!!
answered 5 months ago
You should confront him and ask him what it is tell him you love him and you don't want to become a widow already. Let him know that you are concerned. Drugs are dangerous and they kill people I have many friends that have died because of drugs and I have seen the way they affect people.and it 's not good!!!!!!!!! best of luck!!!!
answered 5 months ago
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