Has Any Men Here Cheated On There Wife?

Sorry - I'm not a guy, but I recognise your need to know what you did wrong, and I'm telling you now - NOTHING! Men cheat on their wives all over the place, not because of their wives but because of themselves. You look very pretty in your pic. Don't blame yourself - you seem to have no self-esteem left. If there was an overriding fault on your part, he would have told you already. If you ask him now and he comes up with something, it will only be whatever he could think of to defend himself.
What makes them do it is curiosity and the thought that they could do it and get away with it.

Guy's been driving his good ole truck for years; he loves his truck.

There's that pretty little sports car. He's got the key's and even better; he's got the owners permission.

I went out on every girl friend I ever had, but I never went out on my wife.....pretty good ole truck.

I must add something.  Most of the divorce cases I receive are because of men cheating on their wife's and the other thing that I noticed is that all or most of the cases are ages between 37 to 50.  That is normally when most men starts to realize that they are getting old and wants to prove that they still got it.  They can still get woman.  They also change the way they dress, they get earrings, buy motorbikes, want to spend more time with the guys and working late and and .....

Does it sound familiar or not.

Never, I wouldn't say that I don't think about it. But when ever I think about what I have at home, and the things we have made it through I stop thinking.

Sorry, also not a guy... But honestly, you can not blame yourself. Some men just can not help themselves. They are programmed to think about sex 24/7. The little sl*t probably gave him an offer he just couldn't refuse. A chance to sleep with a younger woman with no strings attached... Some women out there purposely go for married men, they think it is funny to break up marriages. I bet she has no intention of staying with him, she just wanted what she wanted, and then is gone. The only thing I do think I need to say about how you described your marriage is that it doesn't sound like it was healthy for you to begin with. It is fine to be a dotting wife, but it is not good to let him control you. That may have had an effect on things. Even though he wants to be in control, he probably also doesn't want to be in control. He probably really wanted you to stick up for yourself at some point. Being in total control for 18 years is boring. He probably wanted to see what it was like to be in a situation where the ball isn't just in his court. Do you know what I mean? I think from here on out, you need to be more assertive. Stand up for yourself. And don't jump into a new relationship. Do all things you have always wanted to do, but couldn't because of him. Do not dwell on the end of your marriage, but focus on the new beginning of the rest of your life. Just have fun, and forget about analyzing why it happened. Just move on and enjoy it. Be happy.. And, by the way, I think you look beautiful : ) Good luck.. And remember.. Everything happens for a reason.

Hi I'm not a man,I found out last year my husband was having an affair with my friend from the first might I brought her home,scince then Ive found out he has slept with about five different woman including my sister,He has no explanation for me other than hes was an ass hole and was having trouble being married.He was so controlling also and his biggest fear is I might have sex with someone else,I'm destryed,I think its a man thing.

I am a man and i can say a man that cheats on his wife is not a man at all he is a coward. You don't hurt someone just because. If it someone else you weant tell your significant other, wife, girlfriend whatever that's what you want and get out of the relationship. Sorry to say ladies, its not just a guy thing many women do just the same which is equally wrong.

Yes i have your guy cheated on you to my x wife did nothing wrong n i like to think that you done nothing wrong but 1 thing for sure just because i slept with another female i would've never left her
i dont know if i speak for many man   i love females and that i will always females move guy so bad we are even willing to pay for it  
but for sure the woman we have at home is the 1  she never is in 2nd place never that why we try to hide that from her  i know u prob think if she # 1 why i went out on her
females to man are like candy to a kid
kids dont know how to say no to candy
please dont leave him for that  surely his a great guy

I am a guy and can tell you a bit from the guy's end. I joined blurtit yesterday and my first question was why men who are even in excellent relationships still cheat. Trust me, it's got nothing to do with you. Even if you remained a sweet 16 all your years of marriage, he'd still cheat. If he is a pathological cheat, he'd continue even if you were the most attractive woman in the world all the days of your life.

I have just come to understand that it takes only the fear of God for one not to cheat on their partner.

I have never cheated on my wife in all our seventeen years of marriage and I won't tell you it's been easy. A lot of courage and willpower through the grace of God help me to overcome temptation when it comes knocking. And I tell you, at times, the man stays on his own and yet the women come spoiling for action. They bring their wares for you to sample on a platter of gold.

I admit too that it is tough for the men to keep themselves sane especially where women continuously expose more than just enough of their hidden assets. I do not blame the women for this because they are who they are and must move with the times. Men just need to get more disciplined because at the rate which we are going, in a few years time, there may be no faithful men in the world anymore.

  You should get strong. You are a good woman with a good heart. No one can tell you to stay or go. But you have to be strong. If not ever before then now is a good time. Sit down and talk to your husband and let him know how deeply you are hurt and how you feel overall. By him admitting he is an asshole is only stating fact. What about how sorry he is. Love should not hurt that badly. I believe in marriage but also in being faithful. I love my husband to the core. Been with him since I was 15. I am 29 now and we are married with four kids and one on the way. But I have explained to him that my love for myself reaches deeper than being disrespected. I don't care if I am number one. I should be the only one. I explain to him that if he cheats on me I will leave him without thought. The same rules go for me too. There is no grey area. Marriage is a sacred bond and I will not tell you to leave or stay. I will say to do what is best for your family but put your foot down. Be strong and show him with love just how strong the woman inside truly is. A person will do what you allow. Ask him if he wants a divorce. Explain kindly that he sure as hell will pay for his actions not from you but from a higher power. Do not contest but revive your inner person. Let him know that you will not stand for this and he has a choice to make. Be strong and good luck. Pray about this.