If A Husband Tell Other People Lies About His Wife Constantly, Is That A Mental Illness?

My dad made everyone around my mom hate her, he was controlling and a conartist. Everyone liked him and when she came out about him beating her no one believed her and she lost a lot of friends. It took him rapeing my sisters friend and nearly killing my mom before people realized the truth. My mom divorced my day and although my stepdad is 20 yrs older than my mom he is by far her best choice. Sweetie if you are scared go with your gut feeling and get out. I understand standing by your vows, but there is a limit and your health and well being is that limit.

Either your husband dislike you and not sincere with you or he is really mad. Although your question need more counsellings for answer but i feel that he does not want any body to see you and this can be an symptom of mental illness. You should talk to him about this situation and ask not to do such things because telling lie is bad morally, socially and religiously.

YES!!!  At one time I was married to someone with that kind of personality disorder---your spouse is a Narcissus.  They are hard to detect because they have been who they are since they were children.  From what I have read off the Internet websites it is a new personality disorder.  About 10% of the population have the disorder.  It occurs more in men than women.
Listed below are some defects of the personality disorder:
*  They have a grandiose opinion of themselves.
*  They think they are smarter than anyone.  By that, I mean a manipulator.  They will do the
    evil deeds---lie, cheat, and manipulate---to get their way.  
*   They believe they are special; and therefore, all good things should come to them---and
     no one else.    
*   They will badger, insult, emotionally beat their spouse down until they feel superior.
     And their children are not omitted from their ranging force.  
*   They can be physically abusive.
Reflecting back to my own experiences living with a narcissus,  why do they lie about their spouse?  
My opinion:  First of all...POWER!!! Because they are deeply, deeply insure. They want to pay you back for something you said or did that made them angry. They notice the attention they received when telling the lies about you or a another person and enjoyed the attention. They are jealous of you for some dumb reason; and therefore, the narcissus doesn't want family and friends to like you.
When bring up the subject, as to why people are treating you differently, the narcissus will come back with---"I don't know what you're talking about."   The list goes on; but in the end a narcissus will be who they are for the rest of their life---hurting and feeling insecure.  
I hope I have helped.  Good Luck!!!

My husband does the same here