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    I Have A Eldest Sister Who Got Married And She Has A Job. She Sends Us Some Amount Of Money To Us Though She Is Married.The Problem Is She Commands Me Which I Don't Like In Her?

    She scolds me sometimes for no reason .i look beautiful than her.She feels jealous sometimes and at the sametime praises my figure.i came upon a query that if a person sends money does she have the authority to scold and interfere in other's life?.if a person does a favour to someone does she need to accept and listen to what that person says.Don't we have the right to scold her who had done a favour to us.

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    dll

    Money almost always comes with strings attached.  But you need to just talk to her sometime when you're both getting alone and feeling good about each other.  Tell her how you feel, even if she doesn't respond well to it at the time, she won't be able to forget it and hopefully over time it will at least subtly affect her behavior towards you. The trick is... When you talk to her, you have to be nice about it, and come across as a mature equal, not a whiny little sister.

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    Great answer from dll, and also suggest that you start your talk by first complimenting her and give thanks for the financial help she has provided, then end with another compliment. People tend to take criticism better if they have been complimented in advance. Just a thought.

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      Sending and giving money only means that she cares! What you might be taking to be scolding, might just be her trying to make sure that you are doing the right things in your life, so that you are safe, smart and healthy.
      I used to get jealous about my other sisters, but as time has gone by, I quit worrying about them, and I became more aware of what I was doing, and what I could offer the world instead of resenting someone else. It is so much healthier for you to accept the money and the love that she is offering to you. Don't think that she thinks that she has the right, that probably isn't the case at all. Hope this helps, good luck.

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      Nobody has the right to control another person. It is a pity that because she has done you a favor of sending you money that she thinks she can treat you this way. If she is your older sister, I'm sorry to say that older sisters think they can do this anyway. Be honest with her and tell her you don't appreciate her scolding you. If she has some good advice, listen to her. We can all listen to advice but don't have to take it if it is not good advice. I hope all goes well.

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