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Two People Suicidal Because Of Me. What Should I Do?

My older sister and my ex Girlfriend. My sister is suicidal because I spend too much time on my ex. (Read this to understand why my ex is suicidal http://www.blurtit.com/q182497.html) On top of this my ex said that she is going to start doing drugs tonight. I have really ruined her....All of this is making me depressed, and I need to help them

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    First, I give the correspondent the benefit of the doubt, that the account is a fact.  We are talking damage control, buddy.  Second, take stock: If i understand correctly, at least one week has passed since the original sin and the ex-girlfriend is still alive, so instant self-destruction sounds like b.s.  If it really hits the fan, you are going to need 3 hots and a cot so give top priority to kissing up to your family so you gots a place to stay.  I also note with interest you have not been arrested yet - in that case, maybe with help from family or trusted friend, make a clean break with any and all failed relationships before you get into any more deep doo.   I realize that an agreeable SO is not so easy to find, but you need to concentrate on the basics and get a life first, worry about romance second. K?
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    Swimnot 

    answered 1 year ago

      People do not become suicidal because of others actions. They are suicidal because of depression. I would talk to them and see if they would go to a counselor with you to discuss these issues. If you still feel it is your fault call the suicide hotline they can direct you to the best sources. Also, threats are rarely carried through and this could be their way of making you depressed, which seems to be the most likely reasoning behind their threats. Don't take their threats as totally unlikely as i said contact the suicide hotline the number is in the front of your phone book and discuss the matter with them. They will be able to guide you further, please remember their threats are not your fault
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      Engeman1 

      answered 1 year ago

        Don't blame it yourself. They are just being silly. If they say they are going to do all this and all that, just ignore them. After all it is their decision if they are going to do something silly like that. Please don't blame yourself, blame them for not handling it a bit better.
        Good luck.
        Lizziex
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        Dilworthe 

        answered 10 months ago

        First over all its not your fault that they are suicidal everyone makes there own choices.
        But i understand if you might feel responsible, i think that you should stick close to these people and try to calm them down let them know there are brighter days. Make sure to  keep a close eye on them and offer nothing but encouraging words.

        Support is one of the most powerful weapons you can use on a person who is depressed suicidal or just down on life and luck. I speak from experience from having a suicidal friend and help her through it.

        Well good luck -
        and i hope this helps
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        Watsonkid2 

        answered 1 year ago

        If you would follow the link to the other question you would understand that it IS my fault. If I wouldn't of done what I did then she would be fine.
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        123ooo123

        123ooo123

        commented 1 year ago

        Actually I just finish reading it because i wanted to understand more to your problem but i still don't believe its your fault. Your ex-girlfriend is similar to a person i once dated in a way, and I think that you should distance yourself from her relationship wise but continue to be her friend so as to help her through the depression, but she needs help indeffienetly. I understnad your 14 and theres prolly not much you can do physically but I'm not to much older that you (17yr) and I know you can deff help her emotionally but first you need to help yourself before you can help anyone else and understand that their depressions are not your own. Don't lead yourself into the same situation or youll just have three big problems instead of solving them
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        Watsonkid2

        commented 1 year ago

        You can't think that it is your fault because it's not! That will only make YOU a more depressed person then you wanna be...this is what they're choosing to do and the only thing you should be doing is helping them as much as you can...and not blame yourself about what's going on....everything has a reason and a purpose...you just have to believe that.
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        Bhsgurll 

        answered 1 year ago

        It literally IS my fault. If I would not of done certain things then they would have better lives.
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        123ooo123

        123ooo123

        commented 1 year ago

        But not ALL of it is your fault......people make mistakes....u just have 2 learn from them and try to fix them if you have to....don't always think negative try to look on the brighter side.....that wont only help you but the people that need your help....try to consult with them....if they don't listen to you...then tell someone more professional to try to work with them...don't worry everything will turn out good in the long run...you just gotta wait. =]
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        Bhsgurll

        commented 1 year ago

          Please tell your parents, your ex-girlfriend's parents, and your school's student counselor about this. Suicide is very important to deal with, but do NOT do it on your own!
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          Alexh83 

          answered 9 months ago

          You should have them talk to some one about it
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          Fesstar 

          answered 5 months ago

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