My Best Friend Asked Me Out, But I'm Not Interested. How Do I Tell Him?

A tricky situation, since you are best friends and he has started to see you as something more.

Men can be friends with women without any attraction being present, but there will always be an underlying connection between the two of you (which is why you are best friends). Most male/female friendships work when both sexes ignore these "potential" feelings and enjoy the platonic virtues of friendship.

Your best friend has clearly become more interested in who you are, and is now considering you as a possible partner. If you are an honest friend who cares for him you should certainly be straight with him and explain that you love him dearly, but as a friend only.

The trouble is he may feel very rejected, something which you cannot prevent I'm afraid - and in this case you will need to see if he remains your friend. It can be likely that you might become more distant because for you, he is an unwanted partner (and has tainted your happy friendship with unwanted deeper feelings) and for him, you are the woman he wanted but could not have.

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I was best friends with someone since I was eight and he was twelve I am now 53 and he is 57 we got together and married 7 years ago. It is the biggest mistake I have ever made, we never had a bad word to say about each other but as soon as we got together I lost my best friend for good and found out instead that he is a control freak and a bully.

if only I never went out with him we would still be friends now. in other words a relationship can ruin a friendship, (think very carefully). Just say I like you as my friend and would rather not ruin the special relationship that we have right now. Good luck.

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If you're not interested, I think you should be honest about it . Tell him that you really like him as a best friend and you don't want to lose him and that's what will probably happen if you guys go out together as boyfriend/girlfriend. I really think honesty is the best way, I know you're probably scared to talk to him about it but if he is your bestfriend he'll appreciate your honesty.

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Well today i asked out a guy he said he'll think about it but from my friends they said that after a little of being together for a while that it just all flows with the wind. I'm taking their advise and you should too. All you have to do is see whats it's like to have a best friend boyfriend.




Also if your confused at all all you have to do is write to me.

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