You don't let this man control you that's what you do.  He's doing what he wants and has no reason to expect you to sit home on your birthday. 

Just wondering why he is spending that particular day with his son, doesn't he see his son regularly?  He could easily work around the date of … Read more

It sounds like you guys have trouble communicating your needs / wants with each other, in addition to setting boundaries. You can be disappointed that he will be with his son for your birthday; on the other hand, he can be disappointed that you want to do something fun with your friends.

If you guys cannot … Read more

It's your birthday go to the party, don't let your boyfriend throw a guilt trip at you because you want to go out on your birthday.

You talk to him. It is your birthday and you should be able to celebrate it. If he can't join you and your friends he shouldn't be grudge you doing so. As long as your friends are good people. You should mention that you are going to miss him being there, and suggest maybe you … Read more

Have two birthdays! Double your fun! :0)

It's natural to be disappointed.  That said, knowing he has a child, you know he comes as a "package deal."  No matter how much he may care about you, his child has to come first.  Do you really want to be with a guy that doesn't put his child first?

Could you all go together? Make it a Birthday and Father- Son celebration.

Have a big cake for you and a small cake for them.

Also he could spend 8am 5pm with his son and 7pm till with you.

Or you could celebrate the next day.

There's nothing to be sad or selfish about. 

I think you sound hurt more than selfish, maybe you could go out and spend your birthday with your friends and let him spend time with his son.

I have had a few guys tell me that when I was dating...when they were contemplating going back to, or had someone else they were thinking about -the "you're too good for me" bit.  Funny, they even mentioned the education thing too and added on the way of dressing well....Many in the dating world have … Read more

I don't know whether or not normal, but the lack of respect that he is showing you is not what a good parent would do, stepparent or biological.

Moving out would solve the problem, but in the meantime, can you talk to him about this sort of issue.  Perhaps that would make him think of you … Read more

It's important to realize that emotions are reactions and are not cognitive and volitional states of consciousness.

It is certainly normal that he might be "mad."  It would also have been normal if he had been "happy," but that would have been a less likely reaction.

What is important now is whether he is interested in any … Read more

Your concerns are misplaced. You have a new life that you will be responsible for and will be with for the rest of your life. This guy might not even be around when the baby is born. Your value system is in need of repair. Focus on what is really important in this phase of … Read more