Adopt a more flexible philosophy.

esthetics---

the philosophical theory or set of principles governing the idea of beauty at a given time and place:

the clean lines, bare surfaces, and sense of space that bespeak the machine-age aesthetic; the Cubist aesthetic.

Do you mean pressure to looks nice?  Lena Dunham does that and doesn't.  She dresses specifically to make others think she doesn't care how she dresses.  Which means she does care how she looks if she cares to look uncaring.

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