My mom always hurts me and then turns it around to make it seem like I'm hurting her. She lies to me, forces me to act like her idea of how I should be, and threatens me. It's like my feelings don't even matter matter. Is it bad to hate her for this?
She is manipulating and abusing you. She has no right to do that. You are worth far more than to be so treated.
What she is doing is WRONG.