Nobody should have a abusive mate. Sometimes you have to trust your brain. It's better to be single than to be in a abusive relationship.
Dear Bear West,
You have some options here...and since you do not want to chance losing his friendship, then perhaps not a direct conversation, not right now.
But for yourself, just know that if he did reject you altogether because of homophobia, then in the long run you have not lost much. Meanwhile, perhaps discuss with him … Read more