Taylor Gauss
Taylor Gauss voted up Barb Cala's answer

Sounds like she's just trying to make you feel bad .. And she succeeded.  You have to do what's right for you and your family first.  If she can't understand that .. She's not the right girl for you.

Taylor Gauss
Taylor Gauss voted up Dawn Anonymous' answer

You're not a douche.

But I know what it feels like to be an insecure woman. Maybe reassure her that you care for her, but truly need some space for the reasons you listed.