Married 20 years. Two adult step-kids with their own familes now. I raised them with my husband since they were ages 6 and 3. Now have 3 grand-kids. 2 girls and a boy. Not really treated right by husband. Husband puts me last (if at all). I thought after the kids were raised, we would have this time for us, but we are still helping our youngest financially, even though we are both unemployed now & cannot afford it. We also help his mother some, who now lives with us. I am disabled, but neglected. He is unemployed, and not trying hard to remedy that. He used to work every day & had the same job for 20 yrs., but got laid-off & now stays gone all day, every day, visiting with neighbors & doing things for them, or for his mom, or kids. He is very messy at home (when he is home) & leaves it to me to clean up. He does cook a lot of the suppers...probably more than half of them. He enjoys cooking. He had taken some time to start some minor re-modeling (Re-painted some rooms)