It's important to say those actual words, but not to excess, because after a while it can seem mechanical to the person hearing it. A lot of people feel inhibited about saying these words and when they're said to them, find it hard to reciprocate. There are many other ways to show love over and … Read more
My Husband Died Last Year But Instead Of Feeling Sad And Missing Him, I Find I'm Very Angry And Bitter. He Knew He Had A Heart Condition And Yet He Pushed Himself At Work. He Didn't Think About His Family Or Me And Now, I've Been Left Alone And Full Of Resentment. My Relatives Are Not Helping Because They Keep Telling Me How I Should Be Feeling And Asking Me Why I Don't Cry. I Really Don't Understand My Own Reactions And It's Adding To My Overall Unhappiness. Can You Explain It To Me?
My Husband's Mother Is Very Dominating And He's Always Been Under Her Thumb. We've Only Been Married A Few Months But Already, I Can Feel The Presence Of The Problem. This Is Not A Typical Mother-in-law Matter As I Like Her Well Enough As A Person. But I'm Feeling A Bit Caught In The Middle. He Complains To Me All The Time That She Wants Him To Do Things For Her. I Tell Him He Should Be More Honest And Assertive But He Says It's Very Hard After A Lifetime's Pattern Of Just Giving In. When He Does Stand His Ground, I'm Sure She Thinks I'm Responsible For His New Attitude. Maybe Marriage Has Just Given Him The Courage To Stand Up More For Himself But I Feel That He And I Are Just Starting Out And I Don't Want This Cloud Over Our Lives. What Can I Do, If Anything?
I Love My Wife Very Much But As We Get Older I Find Myself Losing Interest In Her Sexually. We're In Our 40s And I Long For The Beautiful Young Girl I Married. I Look At Her And See An Overweight, Greying Woman. It's Not That I Fancy Anyone Else, But I'm Not Turned On By My Wife Anymore. It's Obviously Affecting Other Areas Of Our Marriage. What Can I Do?
I'm Dating A Married Man And Before You Say I Shouldn't Let Me Just Say, I Already Know. I Have Tried Umpteen Times To Break It Off And, Of Course, I Rightfully Get No Sympathy From Friends. There Are A Number Of Reasons Why It's A Hopeless Situation. Firstly It's Not Very Satisfying For Me. I Am Always Second Best, Waiting Around For Crumbs. Then There's All The Guilt. I Have No Illusion That The Guy Will Leave His Wife As I Know He Loves Her And I'm Just His 'Bit On The Side' So I Feel I'm Wasting My Time When I Could Be Meeting Someone For Myself. For All This I Find I Can't Actually Bring Myself To Make The Break. What's Wrong With Me?