If there is just cause, a management company can refuse to authorize the return of a security deposit. They should put in writing the reasons it is not being refunded. Get out your lease and make sure you are in compliance.

Yes, the landlord would have had to put in writing on the lease that no other person(s) are allowed on the property. If it was not done prior to you signing the lease, he can not change in mid stream.

Aspergers syndrome is a form of autism. You should check with the Autism Speaks website for more information.

Call your local fire dept. And local churches. Often they have families in need and will come and pick it up. After a fire, anything helps.