Sounds like they are trying to figure out some missing pieces of a puzzle. What does your heart tell you? I mean they are asking for pictures not words, you know what I mean? Did they ask if they was blood related? ☺
Long long long lost adopted aunt's children found on FB. Her children ask for a pic of my grandmother her mom and a pic of my mom their mom's sister. I don't mind send them, but of course their not her biological family. Aunt was adopted before I was born and I didn't know she was not blood until I was 13.
Should I tell her, we're not biologically related?
Because I don't want her to be looking for a family resemblance because their isn't any.
Should I tell her, we're not biologically related?
Because I don't want her to be looking for a family resemblance because their isn't any.
They asked for pictures, so give them pictures if you have them. If they ask any questions regarding adoption or biological relations, then you could tell them.
I'm going to vote for telling them that the relationship is one of family, but not blood.
If they are looking for a piece of the puzzle, the additional information will help them to fit it into place.
I would tell them all you know. THAT is how ancestry is passed from one generation to another. Adoptive family or not .. They deserve to know their family ties. Give details.
Might as well tell them the truth, don't ya think ?
Hi Jan,
As long as they aren't adopted I cannot see why they would be upset that there mum was adopted. If the mum is still alive then just send the pictures, she is obviously holding the truth from them for a reason. However, if the Aunt (mum), has always told them that they are related to your mums family, then maybe she wants to view things that way, regardless of the truth. There are two sets of feelings here her's and her childrens, maybe she has already told them but they want photos to see, however, because you do not know the whole story I would probably just provide what they've asked for and that's it. The messenger always get's shot and as you say it is not your responsibility, and giving that kind of information it is a BIG responsibility.