Richard J D'Souza
Richard J D'Souza commented on Mike J's answer
Is over-confidence a bad thing?
I think confidence exists on a continuum. In the middle, being relaxed (quietly confident) is that midline; you are attentive to possible problems, but you aren't plagued by them (this would be the other extreme - lacking confidence). The cocky (over-confident) person is ignorrant to the problems. He/she ignores them and thinks he/she is invincible.
Richard J D'Souza
Richard J D'Souza commented
What do you really think about gay marriage?
Religion doesn't have to be accepting of it, homosexuality will form its own religion. I think that beliefs, ideas, culture and religion overlap in so many ways. I'm confused how you see can them as separate. For many Christians, religion is their culture - it's how they want to be defined. For others it touches … Read more
Richard J D'Souza
Richard J D'Souza commented
What do you really think about gay marriage?
What authority is saying that religion can't change. The point about making changes/updating is that it adapts to the needs of society. Suppress these obvious signs and it comes out in other, usually traumatic ways. Looking back at an authority is fine, but I think you get left behind the times clutching a set of … Read more
Richard J D'Souza
Richard J D'Souza commented
What do you really think about gay marriage?
It depends on whether you accept The BIble as your authority. If that is your starting place and you are gay, then you will feel excluded by the outdated text. The point of religion is the point you give it. Just because homosexuality has never been accepted, it doesn't mean it never will. I don't … Read more
Richard J D'Souza
Richard J D'Souza commented
What do you really think about gay marriage?
How things have been done in the past is no justification for doing the same now or in the future. Tradition suffers from having made rules/customs/beliefs that suited the world at that time. What was the frailty of the world 2000 years ago? Who knows, but 500 years ago they were burning witches according to … Read more
Richard J D'Souza
Richard J D'Souza answered
Why can't love and affection last forever? I love the dating part - when you just want to hold and kiss them all the time, but I'm afraid of marriage because I see so many broken marriages where people get bored and don't have the same affection anymore. Is this normal?

It's called the honeymoon effect and it's normal. It's a fantastic time in a relationship, but it does fade. People mistakenly make commitments during this period and then realise that the honeymoon effect influenced them. When you are ready to settle down, you are ready to appreciate the "depth" and stability of your relationship.

Richard J D'Souza
Richard J D'Souza commented
What do you really think about gay marriage?
I think that religion "makers" can literally do what they want, and some do just that. Admittedly, change is a slow-mover. People will make their own religions if they don't feel accepted. Religion ought to find ways to "include" rather than "exclude" particularly if society is demanding it.