Have you ever heard the old adage, "Money can't buy happiness."? I suggest anyone in that situation take the money and get some counseling.
No. As a survivor of being a neglected child and teen, the money would not ease or mitigate my pain. Neither would be mourned or hated.
The money would not have any affect on me. Later on I would appreciate it and would be glad that I had it but it would not help with mourning over my lost loved ones.