Christmas is about the new reality that Christ established in the world with His birth.
It is reasonable to infer from your question about getting along with your sister better than your mom that you apparently don't think much about religion and its teachings, so that may be why you "just don't get it."
Your grandpa died. I am so sorry for your loss my friend. You may get your spark back once you realize the holidays are not the enemy. It just so happened to be the timing of his departure. Please know, I am hoping you begin to heal because once you start to heal, that's when you get your freedom back. I am not downing your feelings. Losing someone hurts. Trust me, I know. 😔 The day after Christmas this year marks 15 years since my sister died. I spent way too much time living in that prison of pain. I don't want you in the same prison cell I was my friend. PLEASE seek some grief counseling as soon as possible. There is freedom in healing. And I learned the best part is, is that you don't forget your loved one who passed on. And you don't love them any less... It just hurts less. 🤗
Beyond the religious significance, the Christmas season has long been a time of celebrating family or local traditions, of feasting, pageantry, merriment, gift giving, charity and goodwill.
Many of the things we westerners have come to associate with Christmas originated in pagan traditions and iconography that far pre-date, and have nothing at all to do with, Christian faith.
For millennia, various winter festivals were observed in many places, each with their own customs, to bring much-needed warmth, fellowship and cheer to the cold dark days; and to mark the passing of the winter solstice in the northern hemisphere, when the sun once again begins to rise steadily higher over the southern horizon each day. Longer daylight signaled the birth of a new solar year, the turn toward spring and the hope for renewal.
Given what you say about your family dynamic, and what we may deduce of your personal experiences, it isn’t a great surprise that you have no connection to these kinds of ideals. But it isn't too late, you have only to open your mind and your heart to find what other people enjoy about this time of year, take part and make it your own.
It’s the children that makes christmas fun. Their little eyes light up big as saucers.
It’s family time. It’s one time of the year whole families may see each.
The reason for the season. If you believe.
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