"Hey Dad, _____ and I are renting a cabin in the mountains this December. It is (location), and we will be there from December __ until the ___. "
My boyfriend and I have made reservations for a mountain view cabin in December and I plan on telling my dad about it this weekend. I'm 18, so I'm not asking permission, just letting him know, but I don't really know what to say?
Guess what?
If you're still living at home ... You still have to obey the house rules. So if dad says "No you aren't" - you better be prepared to either obey, or move out.
Oh, I wouldn't get too confident about it .. I could be wrong but I`m thinking You are making a HUGE assumption.
18 yrs old is considered an adult alright and allow you to buy liquor (someplaces), or even maybe vote in a local election BUT .. When you are living in someone else`s house, there are house rules. Breaking those rules or showing such contempt for the head of the household is plain disrespectful. Unless, dear old Dad is all 'up wit dis' .. I`m thinking you can expect a backlash considering you are still living in HIS house, and probably expected to abide by HIS rules. If you don't there will very likely be consequences. What do you expect to just slap him with the "Well, I'm an adult now because I am 18" and there`s nothing you can do about it` Pfffttt! I have a hard time thinking that will be the case.
Until you are living on your own completely (emphasis on COMPLETELY) .. You won't have the liberties you are assuming. He doesn't HAVE to provide you with permission nor a blessing. If he doesn't like it .. He could litterally boot your ass out or find some other fitting consequence.
I know I would if my daughter EVER treated her dad with such disrespect.
If you want to be treated like an adult .. Then act like one. A responsible adult would go to their Dad to talk about boundaries and what is expected.. especially when you already know he would not approve. Talking and finding common ground is how adults handle an anticipated difference of opinion .. NOT just throwing something like that in the face of someone and expect them to just shut up about it .
Hey dad guess what that outing im pregnant
If your 18 and really want your independence get a job and move out. Being an adult isn't just about making your own choices . . You still have to care about those who STILL take care of you. Be smart and understand things that affect you WILL affect your parents . . Whether you intended for that or not . . . We are always parents to our children.
If the only thing newsworthy here is that your boyfriend and you will be spending some time in the mountains in a cabin in December rather than being where you usually can be found around the house or the town, then just tell him. In that case it's no big deal, just a courtesy in case he needs to be able to get in touch with you and needs to know where you will be.
On the other hand, if your father doesn't know that you have a boyfriend that you are already sexually intimate with----then I suspect that there is absolutely NO GOOD WAY to tell him about your planned mountain getaway.
Good luck...
If you are daddy's little girl you will break his heart for sure. Be prepared for a "hurt" emotion what ever that may be with the particular individual (your father.) Just throwing that one out there...... Is there any way you can wait a year or two?
