PJ Stein

Does anyone else think that social skills are being lost with the younger generation? We see so many questions on what do in basic social situations. I think we may have to start having classes in school where they have to put away their phones and learn to actually talk to each other.

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Ancient Hippy answered

Yes, social skills are buried under the electronics that young people depend on. So many long distance relationships built through social media without ever meeting in person with questions about love and spending eternity with someone that they've never even met.

Texting relationships with people that are 10 feet away from each other without ever speaking to one another. It just blows my mind.

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Rooster Cogburn , Rooster Cogburn, answered

I couldn't agree more ! I see very little in the way these kids use any social skills. I see these questions and it really makes wonder as we handled most of this stuff ourselves when we were kids. I think they should have at least one class in every school year from Jr. High on up. I agree with you 100% Gator. I see them walking down my street with their faces buried in a screen. Kind of sad actually.

Aldrich Ames Profile
Aldrich Ames answered

Yes. That's mostly with those raised by helicopter, overbearing, overprotective parents.

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PJ Stein
PJ Stein commented
As well as the reverse parents, who just put a screen in front of their kids without actually interacting with them or letting others interact.
Aldrich Ames
Aldrich Ames commented
Couldn't agree more. Parents these days are way too overprotective or just spoil their children by giving them everything they want and not letting them interact with other people. Letting your child interact with people, letting them develop social skills is not a bad thing, going out isn't bad, letting them talk with friends, have sleepovers. Sure, if you want to set time limits of how long they can be out, you should. You should know who or where they're going with or to. Make sure that the person isn't a bad influence. But let them go out. That's something I wish every parent could understand.
Virginia Lou Profile
Virginia Lou answered

Gator Blu,

What your question reminds me...so much basic, personal communication that we have always just taken for granted, it actually does appear to be a learned skill.

I was surprised at that.

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Didge Doo answered

It's true that texting and social media are making kids inept at face-to-face interaction but such things didn't exist in my day and I was still pretty inept. The awkward questions we see on Blurtit are similar to those I'd have been too embarrassed to ask.

Remember yesterday's question from a kid whose mother had taken her phone from her? It was the end of life as she knew it. Smart phones are incredibly useful but juvenile dependence on them is certainly a barrier to normal socialisation.

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Darik Majoren answered

I believe that social skills as we know them are in danger.

I believe they will adapt to another social norm that may differ from the conventional method we have come to know and love.

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Virginia Lou
Virginia Lou commented
Thanks, DarkM...
I do find myself stretching, even here on Blurt, to try to understand others accurately, as well as communicate.

We have discussed that the friendships here (and comparable sites like Ask) truly are authentic, but it just really is a different paradigm...
Darik Majoren
Darik Majoren commented
"We have discussed that the friendships here (and comparable sites like Ask) truly are authentic, but it just really is a different paradigm... " - I completely agree . . . in a world where money wasn't a problem I would love to get together with all of this community to break bread and share a glass of whine (or beer) and communicate verbally.
Virginia Lou
Virginia Lou commented
Yes, very much so.
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Tom Jackson answered

Given this definition of social skills, I would have to agree.  It comes from the link listed.  It's a good article with additional links.

Social skills are the skills we use to communicate and interact with each other, both verbally and non-verbally, through gestures, body language and our personal appearance.

http://www.skillsyouneed.com/ips/social-skills.html

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Virginia Lou
Virginia Lou commented
Tom I thought the article was interesting...
I just watched part of a movie about John Gotti, the Mafia criminal (may actually finish that today).

Anyway, the message was that the main reason Gotti was able to get away with so much murder and mayhem for so long was that his people skills were extremely good - he was charismatic, the term the article used.
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Cookie Roma answered

Just today I had an experience that pointed to this.  I had to go to the post office to pick up a few parcels (online Christmas shopping).  As I was walking in a woman (in my age group) was walking out. I held the door open for her and she nicely thanked me. I went in got my parcels and as I walked to the door 3 men (30ish age group). They looked right at me as they walked in and let the door close behind them.  It's not that I couldn't open the door but it just struck me how basic civility had seemed to disappear. 

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