A month. I don't keep anger inside of me for a long time. It's like worry, neither will benefit me in a positive way.
I rarely get angry and when it happens it is over soon. But here is a story about a friend who managed to keep his anger alive for several years.
Many years ago, a buddy of mine arrived home to find his new car, his pride and joy, had been stolen from outside his house.
It was not immediately recovered and eventually the insurance company paid out.
Some years later, the police pulled up a minor criminal, to find the car in a lock-up garage in Kent.
They informed my friend that his car had been found and asked him what the status was. He told them that it was now the property of the insurance company.
It transpired that, in an effort to disguise the car, the thief had changed the custom wheels, and covered the walnut dashboard with quilted plastic.
My buddy thought nothing of it until about a month later, he got a mail from the thief.
He informed my friend that he had his original wheels and offered them back to him in return for the "new" wheels that he had put on the car. He did not realize that the car had never made it back to the original owner.
Never underestimate the visceral rage of a small Irishman treated badly by a common thief.
My friend went to a local scrap yard, bought 4 wheels for a few pounds each, went to the felon's house and threw them one-by-one through the front room window, which had started off closed and glazed.
Everyone knew who was responsible, including the police, but somehow my buddy escaped prosecution.
31 years, and counting.
16 years and also counting.
I'm not one to stay angry long anymore but probably the longest was when I stepped off the plane at Tan Son Nhut airbase and until 9 years later when I finally came home. My temper and anger kept me alive those years.
Zack, I remember once when quite young, I was angry for one year. ย ย ย ย ย (And Walter it was over a job, I was treated exceedingly badly.) My friend Molly and I went jogging around the lake day after day, and she listened to me process that for the whole year. (That's a true friend.)
But without my crucial skills, that laboratory actually crumbled; it even closed for a time. That was the beginning of learning find other options than anger.
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When anger comes to me now, which is rare, I try to recognize it and resolve it immediately...anger does block your ability to see clearly and rationally.
I rarely stay angry. There have been one or two instances that have hovered deep in my memory that could make me angry if I brought them to the fore, but it's not a rewarding emotion.
Not veryย long ....I easily react and say exactly what I feel in moments of rage ....I'm not sure if that's a good thing ... But once I tell someone what they did to piss me off and what I think of them ... It usually calms me down within a few hours ..... I may never care for or associate with that person again cos they're an idiot ... But I'm not angry anymore :)
19 years, 3 months and still counting.
Anger as a emotional response tends not to last too long---10 minutes to possibly a few hours in extreme cases.ย And it is a powerful emotion, so that's probably a good thing.
Anger as a philosophical position about something is an intellectual response and only lasts as long as I want it to.
A couple hours, maybe. I don't hold grudges and I tend to get over anger very quickly.