Oh both my parents told me that when i was in my teens and older
Do you ever feel like your parents would have been better off without you?
They hated me, despised me, couldn't stand me, treated me worst than rottening garbage, threw me out, but before they psychologically, mentally, emotionally and physically abused me and didn't mind letting me know from birth to 17.
I doubt it, my parents are losers. I think anyone who knows the situation would agree I've been much better off without them.
I never thought that with my adoptive parents. They always made me feel welcome! Now, my birth parents... I'd say I was probably better off without them. Part of the reason I was gone so long is because they found me and I agreed to meet with them. I'm still not sure what to think of them yet.
All of the time.
Nope. Pretty sad reading some of these responses, but it makes me realize how great I have it when my parents have never been anything but loving and supportive. I think I'd be a very different person if they weren't that way.
Life outside my home was always so very extremely difficult as a young person, and my family was the refuge. Not sure I could have even survived without that.
No, I always knew I was wanted and loved.
I would have been better off without them.
No. It probably wouldn't have made much difference to my father, but my mom told me many times that my brother and I were the biggest blessings in her life. (I feel the same way about my daughter.)
They probably would have been, but they were supportive and helpful to the last, they even supported me as I made a late career change that meant I was unable to pay my way in the world for a year or two.
I was able to pay a little back in later life, but not as much as I owed them. Before they both departed the world.
I've never felt that from my parents. They were very loving, caring people that worried about my sister and me until they passed away.
I'm sure my Dad would have thought that way as he said it to me often enough.
Well they chose to have us, we didn't choose to have them. So to me it's a self defeating question. Every parent who has a child so that they can live through them, or expect them to live up to their high expectations, (which let's face it they rarely live up to themselves), have had children for the wrong reason. You have a child then you do your best to keep them safe while letting them become their own person, anything else is an encroachment. My parents have said some less than pleasant remarks to me, but looking at the bigger picture it said more about them than me, you can't carry their negativity around, you have to let them go and learn to parent yourself, instead of living trapped in their detrimental shadow.
More likely the other way around.
But after having pretty much recovered from all the hurt they caused me and also having salvaged the good, I can simply say---considering the poor parenting they received---that they did the best the could.
They tell me so. But without me, they'd be homeless drug addict, alcoholic bums dying of starvation under a bridge. So, no.
no.
My parents were too old when I was born, and I have a younger brother. We were left in no doubt that we were unwelcome additions to the family. But they pulled it together and provided for us. So I really can't complain. So, yes, they'd have been much better without us.
Well, at one time .. Yes, I think I did. In fact it wasn't only limited to my family .. I was quite insecure to the point of feeling worthless in my earlier years. Some of that I now attribute to the ways things were then. My family, although now I recognized they loved me, were not very supportive and worse, would tease me relentlessly. They never took much of anything seriously. I was often the subject of 'humour' in my household .. And athough I don't think they ever intended to hurt me the way they did .. Thier never taking me seriously or offering me any morale support while I was going through the typical challenges of my childhood and early adulthood made me feel quite alone and isolated. I always felt afraid to share my thoughts, fears and even excitement about something because I knew they would just laugh at me. So I withdrew, quietly and discretely. Outwardly, I was happy go lucky .. But inwardly I was alone and isolated.
However .. I endured it, was not a problem child, never smoked or did drugs .. In fact I was an exemplary child compared to most of my friends and kids I hung around with. I was never much of a follower. I kinds of just did my own thing and watched from a distance.
And then .. I grew up .. Fell in love with someone who WAS very supportive and encouraged me to shine. We raised our family and now enjoy a life filled with love and support that we convey not only to each other but our own now grown children and our grandchildren.
The only reason I am sharing this with you is to make a point.
Some of the things I learned back then were things about interaction and parenting .. Specifically about things NOT to do. I learned to pay attention to emotional needs, and to understand how fragile people can be even if they don't show it .. EVERY child has needs when they are trying to navigate this world and enduring it's challenges. Three little spoken words can make a difference in anyone's life .. The words "I Love you" "I CARE" or "I am here for you" can make the world of difference who feels alone and islolated. It may not work miracles .. But at least it can give someone the 'leg up' they need to gain traction.